Many times we tend to give love in the way we want to receive it. However loving someone in a language they don’t understand leads to a number of relationship problems. It’s always important to learn how the people in our lives receive love.
In his book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, Dr. Chapman writes about the 5 love languages. He believes each person has one primary and one secondary love language
(You can take a quiz to find out what your love language is.)
Acts of Service
For service people, actions speak louder than words. They love to help others out and love to have others help them out.
To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch.
This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention.
For some people, what makes them feel most loved is to receive a gift.
Words of Affirmation
Dr Chapman explains, “actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, I love you, are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.”